”家庭人” 本是到信品逛的，她把留下就回了。是她一切的可能助，能刻刻感受到她家人的深沈件的。後翻看了一下，中一些念相的有意思，值得深省。
本是翻自 John Bradshaw 1990 的 BradShaw on: The Family; The new way of creating self-esteem. 市老文化出版， ’心理推理’ 系列’。本的主是指出近代心理研究，我把家庭一情感系 (seeing the family as an emotional system) 而非研究人心理把家庭的互排外. 就是中所的家庭系理。著摘要一下:
* 家人- 家庭系有放 & 封，封系的通僵化，作缺乏化性。放系相反。
* 正向回 vs 毒性教: 而系有所的回圈 (feedback loop), 健康的家庭需要放式，正向的回圈。正向回中新的信念可以像毒性教挑，引家庭的改。
* 家庭: 家庭系功能不良，不得是家中的成不好，而是彼此不良，或是行不妥，出不妥的回。家庭通常需要制定多管理的，包括的、家事分工、、教育、情感、性、身(健康生病)、教等，些分定在度、行通三面。夫妻方本各自自己生的家庭不同的，婚姻中方如何妥，成共同的，是婚姻的重要。
父母之的婚姻作正常，孩子才有健康成，如果婚姻不良，家中的成都被迫做出一些不良的，而害了自己。
* 足家庭的需要: 家庭跟所有社系一，都有基本需求，包括:值感，安全感，成就感，密感，挑和刺激的需求及精神上的寄。
* 角色扮演平衡: 家庭於危，人扮演多角色以力，而失去真正的自我。些角色日益刻板，家庭系也入封。然後家庭就很改。
* 父母的角色: 在於提供，注指引，做孩子的示。
* Bach Model: 社系有四基本需求:
-生的需求
-平衡家庭情的需求
-人的需求
-一的需求
而孩子出生後依序排行一一足家庭系的些需求。也就是第一孩子被期待期望；第二孩子自然和平衡家庭情的需求有；第三孩子人的需求任，同的是父母的婚姻；第四孩子捕捉家中未得解的突。的一理在察，但也有趣有意的。
只有我了解自己家庭系，才能重新不妥的教如何限制我，而走出僵化的人生本。只有我了解自己的家庭史，才能找回真正的自我。
成熟健康必件，是平等的及各自起任。在健康的人，需要承遵守某些律。 Mr. Scott Peck 四原是建立律的方法，它能生活的痛苦:
- 能延足
- 接受自己的任
- 欺, 忠於真
- 了性成, 制某些需求
== 附 John Bradshaw ==
John Bradshaw has been called ”America’s leading personal growth expert.” The author of five New York Times bestsellers, Bradshaw On: The Family, Healing the Shame That Binds You, Homecoming, Creating Love, and Family Secrets, John’s books have sold over four million copies in North America. He created and hosted four nationally broadcast PBS television series based on his best-selling books. John pioneered the concept of the ”Inner Child” and brought the term ”dysfunctional family” into the mainstream. He has touched and changed millions of lives through his books, television series, and his lectures and workshops around the country.
John has lived everything he writes about. Born in Houston, Texas, into a troubled family, abandoned by his alcoholic father, he became a high academic achiever who was also an out-of-control teenager. He completed his education in Canada, where he studied for the Roman Catholic priesthood, earning three degrees from the University of Toronto.
During the past twenty-five years he has worked as a counselor, theologian, management consultant, and public speaker, becoming one of the primary figures in the contemporary self-help movement. For more information about John’s background, take a look at his curriculum vitae, prepared by Matthew Fox at Bradshaw Cassettes.
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